You Just Be You
Posted by madelinesmind on November 30, 2008
I know I’ve been quiet for quite some time, blogging only here on there, but whilst I have been absent I have been travelling on my self discovery journey which inevitably is not over yet. I have learnt so much about myself and at the same time accepted so much more about me. I’ve learned to trust my instincts better and even more importantly I have learned to extend to myself grace.
If you watch television you will find lots of wanna be’s, look alikes and copy cats, you will also find lots of adverts impressing on you how you should look, what you should eat, or wear or what car to buy and over and over again images are being impressed on us of who we should be. The truth is you should just be you, regardless of your weight, height, dress send or career, it’s important that you accept yourself just the way you are. If there is any need to change that should be lead by your desire to the the best that YOU can be not the best that someone else prescribed for you.
It takes some real forgiveness to accept yourself and to be happy with who you are, whilst there are some things that I would really live to develop about myself and work on I can truly say that I am happy with me. It’s from this standpoint that I can move forward, allowing myself to be all that I can be with out reservation and self criticism that often hampers that success that I should be experiencing. I’ve learnt to challenge my underdog who tells me that I can’t do some thing or that I’m not good enough, slim enough, tall enough (insert your own) and remind myself of all I have achieved and are capable of achieving.
My dad died when I was ten years old, way back in 1979 when bereavement counselling wasn’t fashionable and when you just got on with it, my mum has been suffering with dementia in the form of Alzheimers for the last 10 years and it has been really very hard going. But!!! and this really is a big but… what I has really hit me in the face is that whilst these things have affected me Life is for the Living and tomorrow is not promised so it’s time to seize today. It’s time to live enjoying who I am not wishing away the skills and qualities I have in the desire to be like someone else. It’s time to recognise that I am enough and that what I have to offer is just as good as the next person if not better. We can either let our life experiences push us forward or allow them to take us down. I am who I am a woman who is multi-skilled, multi-faceted, with amazing prospects.
If I can be me and love me then you can just be you.
thebeaddreamer said
Very well said. Sometimes we all need to take a moment and recognize that who we are is just fine. That is not to say we should not have goals, we need them to grow and to achieve things. Only that our focus should not solely be on the future. It is nice at times to just be in the present moment and know that it is enough.
bobbiejane said
Beautiful words of encouragement and wisdom! Thanks for sharing!! x
madelinesmind said
Thank you ladies, I feel it’s time we appreciated who we are and all that we have achieved instead of comparing ourselves to others who often have the very same insecurities that we are battling with.
Keep beautiful!!
Sharon Wilson said
Very well put. Unfortunately, sometimes we forget to appreciate ourselves and forget what we are about because we get too wrapped up in what we are not and wish we could be.